Why Don’t My Kids Listen? 🤔
The number one parenting question we ask as a parent is "Why won't my kids listen to anything I say? ☹"
But here’s the truth: Parenting is about connection, not control. When we lead with love, our kids respond with respect.
— Dr. Hanaa Gannoum (Peace Within Home)
Our children are not being DISOBEDIENT they are often feeling DISCONNECTED. They’re not ignoring us; they may simply be upset, tired, or overwhelmed.
So, what can we do when they’re not listening?
Here are some tips I’ve learned from experts and try to apply with my own kids:
1.Pause and connect first
Get down to their level.
Make eye contact.
Call them by their name.
This helps them feel seen and respected.
2.Give them a reason to engage
Acknowledge what they’re doing: “I can see you are busy with…”
Then make the instruction clear and simple.
🚫 Things to avoid:
Nagging or repeating the same thing again and again.
Raising your voice or threatening.
Assuming they are “giving us a hard time.”
Example:
Instead of saying, “Go do your homework now!”
Try this:
👉 “I can see you’re in the middle of your favorite cartoon. I know it’s hard to stop right now. But I need you to finish your homework first, and then you can get back to your show.”
💭 I’ll be honest — it’s not easy. I struggle with this every single day with my three sons. But what I’ve learned is that when I connect first before giving instructions, things flow a little more smoothly.
Parenting is not about perfection. It’s about building connection, one moment at a time. 💕
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